Four Simple Steps to Becoming a Worry-free Bride Where has the time gone? She still needs to put on her dress, makeup, and style her hair. It wasn’t supposed to be like this, scrambling around trying to make everything perfect—feeling worried and anxious. She lights the candles, places the nametags on the tables, sets up the glassware, talks with the entire venue staff, and coordinates with the caterer. She makes sure every single detail is perfect and will not delegate her plans to anyone. She is exhausted and counts down the time till the ceremony and reception ends—all she wants to do is sleep.
Julie McAfee, wedding and event coordinator at Port Gamble Weddings in Port Gamble, Wash., tries to help women who are like this unfortunate bride, but usually the women will not let go of the control over their wedding. Thus, the bride has a troublesome day that could have been worry-free if she had followed this advice.
Create a wedding list.
There is nothing more stressful for a bride than not knowing what she should be working on to further her planning. She should research wedding countdowns lists and create her own list of what needs to be done, such as finding decorations, music, venues and caterers. McAfee believes a bride should plan realistically and have realistic expectations and not plan an extravagant affair for her wedding if she cannot handle the amount of work.
One of the best things a bride can do for planning a ceremony is to, “Make a list of all that needs to be done and what you want to be done,” says McAfee. “The more you take on, the more stress you take on.” Thus, a bride will worry less if she plans ahead and makes a list.
Set and stick to a certain budget.
Spending over the budget is very easy when planning a wedding. There is money to be paid for the photographer, dresses and tuxes, flowers, food and so much more. Jessica Campbell, owner and planner of Truly Timeless Event in Chattanooga, Tenn., believes the most important thing for a wedding is setting a budget.
“Set it and stay with it. Try finding alternatives to the expensive items on your wedding list. You don’t want to regret [going over your budget],” says Campbell.
The couple should also be aware of hidden costs within a wedding. They should save some money on the side for when surprises arise, such as taxes and gratuities, rental transport and even postage stamps. Simple expenses can expand quickly when planning a wedding. Thus, a bride will worry less if both she and her groom plan a firm budget and stick to it.
Don’t worry too much about the details.
“It is always nice to want things to be perfect, but life happens,” says McAfee. Nothing is perfect—a bride shouldn’t let stormy weather or rowdy family ruin the celebration of the wedding. McAfee says aiming for perfection can only disappoint the bride. The woman’s expectations of a perfect day can ultimately be the main worry.
Also, a bride wanting the wedding of her dreams will leave her completely exhausted. The website Pinterest can be bad for women planning their weddings. Most posts on this website are picture perfect, which can be quite discouraging for the average bride. Pinterest can be a good source for inspiration, but brides shouldn’t expect perfection. Weddings will never be as perfect as the pictures in Pinterest. Thus, a bride will worry less if she sets realistic expectations in the details.
Let family and friends help.
The more chores a bride has do to on her big day, the less time she will have to make memories with her friends and family, take photos or simply enjoy her wedding day.
“The first thing that pops in my head is the word ‘delegate,’” says Nicole Melton, lead event coordinator of Soirees, a service designed to help with weddings, parties and events in Chattanooga, Tenn. “The more you delegate, the more everyone feels included and in the end everyone is calm and happy!”
So many brides get overwhelmed trying to do everything themselves, when in reality, there are so many people that want to be included and help out. Melton believes a bride should utilize those who want to help. Thus, a bride will worry less if she lets her friends and family help out with the wedding.
But a bride needs to remember the most important thing to a wedding. “If you look at the marriages that work, [the husband and wife] focus on each other," says McAfee. “The wedding is a way they can express their love.” The goal of the wedding is to get married. It should be fun and packed with love, regardless of what the day is like.